How To Know The Guy You Met Online Is Serious And Not Playing?

Meeting a guy online has become as common as meeting someone in person. But, with opportunities come some disadvantages as well. One can hardly tell if their online-love interest genuinely likes them back, which can often leave you wondering if the guy you met online is serious and not playing, catfishing, or scamming you.

We’ve listed a list of factors that will help you conclude if he is really serious about you. So, the next time you are chatting, keep the list in your mind and pay close attention to your interactions. 

8 Signs The Guy You Met Online Is Serious & Not Playing

Conversations With You Are His Priority

There is a difference between just chatting casually and having a conversation. Chatting casually usually lacks the emotional connection, which will be apparent in how he responds to you. His replies will be short and close-ended. You will feel as if you are the only one initiating and pushing the conversations. 

On the other hand, a conversation is an exchange of thoughts and involves active participation from both ends. If chats with him are so smooth and flowy that you lose perspective of the time, then it’s a clear sign that he is interested in you. 

Not Rushing Into Physical Intimacy

The number one sign of players is rushing into physical intimacy or sexting. They are more interested in getting the business done than investing their time with you into building a serious and deeper relationship. 

Although, taking things slow around physical intimacy may seem absurd to some. As it often translates as a commitment issue. But when he is content waiting for you to get comfortable enough for this next step, you will know that he is serious about you. He wants you to know that there’s much more to your online relationship than just physical attraction.

He Doesn’t Make You Wait For A Reply

Everyone has things to do, and if someone takes longer to respond, sometimes it isn’t a red flag. However, if this becomes a common practice and you are left on read for days, then it shows signs of a player. 

If the guy you met online is serious about you, he will prioritize spending time with you. He will respond to you in a timely manner. Or, will at least inform you if he is already engaged in something else and will get back to you later. He will make conscious efforts to create a bond with you that he cherishes, and you will be able to tell by the prominent secure feeling in your heart that he wants to know you better and take the online relationship ahead. 

His Actions Show That He Cares

Most men put up a great show when it comes to chatting and preparing a long list of things they will do for you that shows how much they love you. But as soon as they are asked to act the part, they vanish into thin air.

In contrast, if a guy you met is serious about you and the relationship will be more expressive with his words as well as his actions. You will be able to see that he does what he says. He will not be afraid to make commitments and take care of you even when there is no “return” involved. 

Respecting Your Boundaries Isn’t An Issue

Acknowledging and respecting where you draw a line is a massive sign that shows his seriousness toward you and the online relationship. If he doesn't throw a fit when you communicate your boundaries and he is a man who is willing to make compromises to find common ground with you, then he is taking the relationship seriously.

Because guys who are more interested in playing around will never be comfortable with your boundaries. They will come up with several excuses or ignore your boundaries altogether. 

You’re On His Mind

If he is initiating the chats more often than you, then it is a clear sign that you’re on his mind. He is more interested and serious about you. For example, he sends you texts whenever he misses you, greats you with good morning messages, or tells you about anything exciting or dull that happened in his day. 

Simply put, he is always thinking about you, and you will see that reflect in your interactions. Whereas, if you are normally the one who texts first, you can test him by not messaging him for some time and see when he realizes your absence and how he responds to it. 

He Appreciates You

When he is not shy to give you compliments to show how much he appreciates you, then it's a pretty obvious sign of attraction. Compliments are a way men communicate their interest in someone they like. But it also depends on what he is complimenting. 

Genuine compliments seem sincere, and they are based on things that are personal to you. So, he will notice small things about you and compliment those more often than the general compliments. Try reciprocating his actions and saying thank you with a winky face to make his heart flutter even more. 

You Aren’t Kept In A Limbo

One of the most noticeable signs that a guy you met online is serious about you is not keeping you in limbo. It is fairly common for people to engage more than one person in an online relationship, also known as two-timing. This is a giant sign of a player. It shows that he is keeping his options open and will not be interested in an exclusive relationship. 

But, when he is serious about you, you won't have to wait around for him. He will tell you that he is interested in you, and his actions will be evidence of that. He will ask questions about you, show that he cares, will try to make you laugh, remember a lot of things about you, and won’t be afraid to plan real-life activities with you. 

Take Away

As long as you choose a safer route, online relationships can be exciting. So while you figure out if the guy you met online is serious and not playing, be sure never to give your personal information, like financial, private pictures, addresses, etc., out to anybody, no matter how trustful they look.